Is not being allowed to spend time with friends a problem in a relationship?

1) I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost five months and I love him very much. We get along great and enjoy spending time together. However, sometimes I feel like we spend too much time together. I barely have time for work and school and still make him happy. If I tell him I'm busy he says he's okay with it, but later he gets mad at me for not making enough time for him and doesn't think I'm as committed to our relationship as he is.

This especially bothers me because I have pretty much lost my three best friends. They were never really crazy about him to begin with, but I didn't expect them to be best friends too. Ever since we have been going out, they do not ask me to do anything, yet I haven't really asked them to do anything either. I want to know how I can explain to him that even though I like spending time with him, I need time for other friends too. I don't plan on breaking up with my boyfriend, but if I did, I'm afraid my friends wouldn't take me back. I want to be able to make time for both.

2) My husband gets mad at me if I want to spend time with a friend. He says I don't have enough time for him. If I do spend time with a friend, he complains that everyone else is more important than he is because if I have enough time to spend with them I must have it to spend with him. I am only asking for one night out a month. We work together and spend every night together — is this asking a lot? My husband has no social life outside of me. If I don't want to spend all my time with my husband, does this mean I don't love him? He thinks so. What should I do? Help!!!


What's the difference between fluid during arousal and discharge?

This might sound like a gross question, but I do need an answer! When my partner performs oral sex on me, I'm not sure if my vagina is moist because I'm wet or because I have vaginal discharge... which is what? Isn't it normal for a woman's vagina to be somewhat moist, and to have a little discharge? When a woman gets wet, how can she tell? And know the difference between that and discharge?

Also, my partner and I haven't tried intercourse yet (I am a virgin)... I've read your previous answer to a man who said his penis might be too big for his partner; I am worried that I'm too small/tight for my partner. It doesn't look easy for him to even enter, and I don't know how I can make my opening wider to accommodate him (how much foreplay, how long?). How much pain does the woman feel? Thanks a lot!!


Birth control options

Birth Control Basics

Birth control (or contraception) is any regimen or medicine used to prevent pregnancy.

Most birth control options are used by people with internal reproductive anatomy such as a uterus, vulva, and vagina, while only a few options are available for those with external reproductive anatomy such as a penis and testes.

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Do I need to stay home from class if I have chickenpox?

I've come down with chickenpox. Should I stay home from classes even though 90 percent of adults have already had it and are thus immune? If I take great care washing my hands and avoiding coughing anywhere but into the crook of my arm, will I be reasonably assured of not spreading it?


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Transgender Health and Wellness Recommendations

Health guidelines for transgender people are unfortunately an under-researched topic. Most existing guidelines are extremely binary and based on sex assigned at birth, which comprises anatomy, body composition, and hormones. The research doesn’t offer much guidance for non-binary or intersex individuals. Knowing whether to follow existing female or male guidelines can therefore be confusing and often requires the guidance and support of a health care provider.

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Stress

Stress: The Basics

Stress is a normal psychological and physical reaction to the demands of life. Work, school, relationships, and daily hassles can often serve as stressors, or sources of stress. Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Good stress, or eustress, pushes us to work harder. When this stress becomes overwhelming or hard to manage, it’s called distress and can impact your health.

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Self-Care for Headaches

The main symptom of headaches is head pain. Though the majority of headaches are benign or not life-threatening, some may be an indicator of a more serious health issue.

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STI virus

STI Basics

Sexually transmitted infections are infections that are transmitted from person-to-person during anal, oral, or vaginal sex; genital skin-to-skin contact, or when fluids are exchanged from one person to another. This can occur via direct contact with the fluid or through the mutual use of sex toys.

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Nicotine and Tobacco: What Is It and How to Start Your Quit Journey

Quitting nicotine and tobacco is no small feat—and sometimes quitting can be difficult to navigate. As you plan your quit journey, there are many different things to consider to make these next steps easier. This includes having an understanding of nicotine and tobacco, how to get started, and what supports you have available to you during your journey. 

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Nicotine and Tobacco: How to Navigate Withdrawals When Quitting

If you’ve made the decision to quit nicotine, you might experience withdrawal and other unpleasant side effects. While this shouldn’t deter you from continuing your quit journey, there are some considerations when navigating nicotine withdrawal.

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Healthy Sleep Habits

Sleep plays an integral role in maintaining physical and mental health. Not getting enough quality sleep can interfere with a person’s ability to store newly learned information, potentially leading to a negative impact on academic performance. In addition, sleep deprivation is associated with daytime sleepiness, depressed mood, impaired concentration and memory, and a weakened immune system.

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Gender Affirming Care: Surgical

Gender-affirming care (GAC) is an umbrella term for health care that aims to help a transgender or gender diverse person’s body better align with their gender identity. You might seek out GAC if you experience gender incongruence—when the gender you identify with conflicts with the sex you were assigned at birth. There are many different forms of GAC, including both lifestyle changes and medical interventions. The World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH)—the organization often recognized as the gold standard for GAC— outline guiding recommendations for GAC. Additionally, it’s helpful to keep in mind that medical transition isn’t necessary to identify as transgender or gender diverse.

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Gender Affirming Care: Non-surgical

irming care (GAC) is an umbrella term for health care that aims to help a transgender or gender diverse person’s body better align with their gender identity. You might seek out GAC if you experience gender incongruence—the state in which the gender you identify with conflicts with the sex you were assigned at birth. There are many different forms of GAC, including both lifestyle changes and medical interventions. The World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH)—the organization often recognized as the gold standard for GAC— outline guiding recommendations for GAC. Additionally, it’s helpful to keep in mind that medical transition isn’t necessary to identify as transgender or gender diverse.

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Communicating and Relating

Many people agree that communicating with others is scary. In fact, enough books on communication and relationships have been published to fill a library. When it comes to relating with fellow humans, there are a number of important factors to keep in mind:

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Cervical Cancer Screening (Pap Test)

Cervical cancer is a type of cancer that develops in either the cervix itself or on the walls of the cervix. Most cervical cancer cases are caused by the human papillomavirus (HPV) which is passed during sex. While penile-vaginal sex is the most common route of transmission, HPV can also be spread during oral and anal sex. Often the early stages of cervical cancer go unnoticed. However, as the cancer grows, other symptoms begin to appear such as:

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Birth Control Options – Barrier Methods

These methods attempt to block sperm from fertilizing an egg, either with a physical barrier or a substance that lowers the ability for sperm to swim and meet an egg. Some options can also reduce the chance of contracting or spreading STIs.

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Birth Control Options – Surgical Methods

These methods are considered permanent birth control or voluntary sterilization options because they involve a surgical procedure that’s generally difficult or expensive to reverse. Additionally, reversing this procedure does not ensure that your fertility will return to pre-procedure levels. And it’s important to note that these options do not protect against STIs.

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Birth Control Options – Lifestyle Options

While lifestyle options are typically the least effective at preventing pregnancy—aside from abstinence—they are often the most cost effective. However, they might involve some planning or communication between sexual partners to prevent sperm from fertilizing an egg. Lifestyle methods of birth control do not prevent against STIs, so be sure to use a barrier method if you are looking for protection.

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